making and keeping agreements

10 Tips for Fair Fighting

10 easy tips for fair fighting will simplify and calm the way you respond to conflict.¬† Having a few ready-made tools can improve your success in navigating those dreaded heated moments with your partner.¬† Being mindful, factual, and empathic are just a few of the basic skills that deescalate potentially problematic interactions. It’s never too […]

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Bids for Emotional Connection in Couples Therapy by Dr. Dan Wile, PhD, danwile.com

Intro by Gary Krane The following brilliant essay is by Dr. Dan Wile, a therapist¬† whom the eminent Dr. John Gottman calls, “a genius and the greatest living marital therapist [in America].” The essay is a highly sophisticated analysis of what Gottman calls “Bids,” or what we at couplewise.com know as actions that meet our […]

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