This article is written by Heather Edwards, LMHC, NCC, BCC Psychotherapist, Life Coach, and Blog Editor in Chief of Couplewise. It is originally posted on her blog at NewYorkPsychotherapyandLifeCoaching.com . In this piece she suggests ways to celebrate your love everyday. Valentine’s Day is the day of love notes, red roses, and heart shaped chocolates. […]
5 Pro-Sexual Scripts to Improve Your Sex Life
It’s all too easy to function on auto-pilot. Richard Nicastro, Ph.D., a Psychologist and Marriage/Couples Counselor in Las Cruces, New Mexico talks about the mental scripts that influence our thought and behavior patterns on a conscious and unconscious level. Whether we realize it or not, they are our constant companion – we even take them […]
Love as an Action Word
Lisa Firestone, PhD Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association, teaches us that when we challenge our internal self critic, we enhance our self worth and open ourselves to the people we love. She offers several behavioral measures of loving gestures and secrets to happiness according to a recent Harvard study. Read further to […]
4 Tips For Making a Good Marriage Better
We’re easily swept up in the activities of our everyday lives. Often, we find comfort and safety in the predictability of the status quo. We establish routine, a flow to each day, and somewhat mindlessly move from one thing to the next. In this article Phyllis Goldberg, Phd, MFT , Therapist, Relationship Coach, and one […]
10 Tips for Fair Fighting
10 easy tips for fair fighting will simplify and calm the way you respond to conflict. Having a few ready-made tools can improve your success in navigating those dreaded heated moments with your partner. Being mindful, factual, and empathic are just a few of the basic skills that deescalate potentially problematic interactions. It’s never too […]
Transition to the Five-to-One Ratio
The following is from the book “Fire Up Your Communication Skills” (ISBN 09657620-6- 8) by Fire “Captain Bob” Smith. He is a recognized expert and speaker/author on stress, communication and relationship skills. He is a humorist, coach, entrepreneur and frequent talk show guest. He also produces customized presentations for career and personal growth. To book […]
Bids for Emotional Connection in Couples Therapy by Dr. Dan Wile, PhD, danwile.com
Intro by Gary Krane The following brilliant essay is by Dr. Dan Wile, a therapist whom the eminent Dr. John Gottman calls, “a genius and the greatest living marital therapist [in America].” The essay is a highly sophisticated analysis of what Gottman calls “Bids,” or what we at couplewise.com know as actions that meet our […]
What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage – by Amy Sutherland, New York Times
What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage By AMY SUTHERLAND New York Times As I wash dishes at the kitchen sink, my husband paces behind me, irritated. “Have you seen my keys?” he snarls, then huffs out a loud sigh and stomps from the room with our dog, Dixie, at his heels, anxious […]
“Two Classes, Divided by ‘I Do’” by Jason DeParle, New York Times
Two Classes, Divided by ‘I Do’ By JASON DePARLE ANN ARBOR, Mich. — Jessica Schairer has so much in common with her boss, Chris Faulkner, that a visitor to the day care center they run might get them confused. They are both friendly white women from modest Midwestern backgrounds who left for college with conventional hopes […]
REPORT: “What Works in Marriage and Relationship Education?”
If anyone still has doubts that short-term, inexpensive, skill-building, educational interventions can be powerfully effective in improving and even saving marriages, we at couplewise.com believe you will find this read a powerful inspiration. Give it read and post a comment or two. Start by clicking the image below. Don’t forget to come back and comment. […]
