Do you know what the all-time most popular post on our blog is? It’s called Motivating Your Partner to Improve the Relationship. Month after month, this post is #1… which can only mean that this question is really important to you. So of course we asked Dr. John Gray for his thoughts on the matter. […]
Q&A with Dr. John Gray: his take on COVID-19 and its impact on relationships
I don’t know if you’ve looked out your window lately – but we’re in something of a tight spot. A few simultaneous, overlapping, cataclysmic tight spots, actually. COVID-19, an increasingly bitter election cycle, nationwide protests, the west coast is on fire… all of these things have been on our minds, and we knew they’d have […]
Q&A with Dr. John Gray: is there a right way to apologize? (Parts I & II)
Everybody knows: for whatever reason, apologizing is tough. But, we have to do it – sometimes, we have to do it a lot – and usually, we do it the wrong way: We try to spread the blame around, or say those terrible words, “If what I said upset you, then I”m sorry” (which, of […]
Q&A with Dr. John Gray: what is the foundation of a long-lasting relationship?
We’re back with Dr. John Gray (author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus), and we gave him a total softball question this time: What is the foundation of a long-lasting relationship? He makes it look as easy as pie. Namely, that we need to better understand the roles we’ve chosen, and learn […]
Q&A with Dr. John Gray: what impact did “Men are from Mars…” have on relationships?
One of Dr. John Gray’s best-selling books is Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, which is one of those books that even if you haven’t read it, you’ve heard of it. So today’s question is pretty straight forward: What changed in relationships after Men are from Mars? The answer might surprise […]
Q&A with Dr. John Gray: How do men and women differ in how they approach romantic relationships?
Today, we’re excited to launch a new series of Q&A videos with Dr. John Gray! You know John, because he wrote the most popular book on relationships of all time (Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus). You might also know that he is a member of our Advisory Board at CoupleWise. […]
10 Tips for Fair Fighting
10 easy tips for fair fighting will simplify and calm the way you respond to conflict. Having a few ready-made tools can improve your success in navigating those dreaded heated moments with your partner. Being mindful, factual, and empathic are just a few of the basic skills that deescalate potentially problematic interactions. It’s never too […]
Transition to the Five-to-One Ratio
The following is from the book “Fire Up Your Communication Skills” (ISBN 09657620-6- 8) by Fire “Captain Bob” Smith. He is a recognized expert and speaker/author on stress, communication and relationship skills. He is a humorist, coach, entrepreneur and frequent talk show guest. He also produces customized presentations for career and personal growth. To book […]
Critiquing “Hope Springs”: Find out what you won’t learn about couples’ counseling and sex therapy from the movie.
The following review has been written from the perspective of a sex therapist, Dr. Barbara Bartlik, MD (http://drbarbaramd.com/) and Gary Krane, PhD, co-founder of couplewise.com. The recently released movie, “Hope Springs,” depicts couples’ counseling and in a sensitive and realistic manner, providing viewers with a glimpse of what couples’ therapy actually is like. In addition, […]
Bids for Emotional Connection in Couples Therapy by Dr. Dan Wile, PhD, danwile.com
Intro by Gary Krane The following brilliant essay is by Dr. Dan Wile, a therapist whom the eminent Dr. John Gottman calls, “a genius and the greatest living marital therapist [in America].” The essay is a highly sophisticated analysis of what Gottman calls “Bids,” or what we at couplewise.com know as actions that meet our […]
