Intro by Gary Krane The following brilliant essay is by Dr. Dan Wile, a therapist whom the eminent Dr. John Gottman calls, “a genius and the greatest living marital therapist [in America].” The essay is a highly sophisticated analysis of what Gottman calls “Bids,” or what we at couplewise.com know as actions that meet our […]
What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage – by Amy Sutherland, New York Times
What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage By AMY SUTHERLAND New York Times As I wash dishes at the kitchen sink, my husband paces behind me, irritated. “Have you seen my keys?” he snarls, then huffs out a loud sigh and stomps from the room with our dog, Dixie, at his heels, anxious […]
“Two Classes, Divided by ‘I Do’” by Jason DeParle, New York Times
Two Classes, Divided by ‘I Do’ By JASON DePARLE ANN ARBOR, Mich. — Jessica Schairer has so much in common with her boss, Chris Faulkner, that a visitor to the day care center they run might get them confused. They are both friendly white women from modest Midwestern backgrounds who left for college with conventional hopes […]
REPORT: “What Works in Marriage and Relationship Education?”
If anyone still has doubts that short-term, inexpensive, skill-building, educational interventions can be powerfully effective in improving and even saving marriages, we at couplewise.com believe you will find this read a powerful inspiration. Give it read and post a comment or two. Start by clicking the image below. Don’t forget to come back and comment. […]
Marital Therapy May Increase Sex
Posted by Sharon Jackson A U.S. survey of counseling professionals recently found that the top reason couples fight is not about sex and money, but that neither partner feels important or valued by the other. The survey, “Marital Therapy May Increase Sex.” Dr. Phyllis Goldberg, Ph.D [Marriage and Family therapist] has this to say about […]
Emotional Opposites in Relationships
Posted by Sharon Jackson “Of all the ways that opposites attract, the thorniest may be when emotionally giving types pair up with types who are emotionally reserved.” The Wall Street Journal has a really interesting article called, “Show me the Love….Or Not,” that asks the question, “How do two very emotionally different people in an intimate […]
New Study on Empathy in Relationships
By Sharon Jackson “Men like to know when their wife or girlfriend is happy while women really want the man in their life to know when they are upset,” according to a new study published by the American Psychological Association. The article titled, “Women Happier in Relationships When Men Feel Their Pain,” “The study involved […]
Yo-Yo Relationships; Breaking a Vicious Cycle
By Sharon Jackson Almost everyone one I know, has had one of those exhausting on again/off again relationships that leave you drained and pained. Usually, these types of relationships occur in our twenties and early thirties, when we’re still trying to figure out who we are and what we want, but they can happen at […]
Money and Vulnerabilty
By Sharon Jackson Money is one of those topics that can be a hot button for many people, especially people in new relationships or even in long-term relationships. It’s a charged subject. The article, “Buy, Sell, or Hold your Relationship, explores the territory of money as it relates to those feelings of commitment, trust, vulnerability […]
The Marriage Plot
By Sharon Jackson “When Elizabeth Weil and Dan Duane married in July 2000, they made a straightforward pact; no cheating, no dying. Other less dramatic problems might lie on the horizon, like money (both are writers) and religion (she’s Jewish, he’s not). Over time, neither of these issues created difficulties, but nine years and two […]
